Woman sits next to her partner in support of her eating disorder recovery.

What to Say to a Significant Other Struggling with Disordered Eating

When your partner is struggling with an eating disorder, naturally, your desire to show support in their recovery is high. It can feel tricky to do because even the most well-meaning encouragement may come off as dismissive or triggering to your loved one. Our good intentions of support will fall by the wayside once that happens.

So, what do you say to your significant other when they are struggling with disordered eating? Today we’ll look at ways to connect with and support your partner in their recovery.

Knowing What to Stay Starts by Understanding What Your Partner Is Going Through

You may know “of” mental health conditions, but don’t confuse that with knowing “about” mental health conditions. Knowing what to say is important, but there isn’t a playbook of words that do and don’t work. If you want to know how to approach each day with your partner, start by educating yourself on what your partner is going through. There is an abundance of resources and information available online and offline and through various treatment processes offered by eating disorder facilities. Surround yourself with this information, and you’ll know how to respond and react to your partner.

Avoid Comments About Your Partner’s Appearance

Belief can go a long way, but commenting on their appearance can have the opposite effect, especially when your partner is in recovery. Instead, focus on your partner’s inner self, and emphasize their strength and best personality traits. Remind them they’re more than what they might think or feel about themselves.

Let the Words You Say Express Love and Support for Your Partner

Sometimes when we’re going through stressful times mentally or physically, reassurance can have a steadying effect. Your partner will undoubtedly be dealing with their fair share of fluctuating thoughts, and you can be a beacon of support with how you express your love and support daily. This can be as simple as being a good listener, and being present and allowing them to just “be.” It lets your partner know they are loved and in a safe space as they heal.

Communicate with Your Partner Even If It’s Uncomfortable

Mental health often carries a stigma that can make people uncomfortable speaking with others about their circumstances. Don’t let that be you and your partner. Communication is key, as it can help you tear down walls between you and help you both understand better how you feel. Lack of communication can isolate both parties and may leave an unnecessary amount of uncertainty in the room. You don’t have to force your partner to speak about how they feel, but let them know that the space to communicate is always open.

Emphasize the Importance of Finding the Right Support System

Everyone deserves support no matter what mental health issues they are experiencing. So don’t give up on your partner. Encourage them to seek help from clinical experts and treatment programs to help create a safe environment for growth and healing and let them know that you will be walking alongside them through it all.

Team up with treatment centers like Toledo Center and enjoy comprehensive care and treatment programs designed to surround you with the necessary support for disordered eating and other conditions. With the backing of our residential eating disorder treatment, your spouse can get intensive help that keeps them directed on the path to healing.

Fill out a contact form today or call Toledo Center for Eating Disorder Recovery at 419-885-8800 for more information on setting your spouse up with an eating disorder specialist.







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